As Pilates teachers, we often focus on guiding others through movement, posture, and breath. But how often do we reflect on our inner voice, the one that guides us in our teaching and interactions? Today, on Thoughtful Tuesday, let's talk about finding that inner voice—especially for those who may feel hesitant to speak up in everyday situations.
We all know individuals who are naturally outspoken, quick to express their opinions, and direct in their communication. In contrast, many of us, particularly in British culture, are conditioned to be more reserved. For example, if you're served a cold meal at a restaurant, how many of us would smile and say, "Thank you, it was lovely," even though it wasn't? This reflects a broader tendency to avoid confrontation or assertiveness, especially when it feels uncomfortable.
But as teachers, whether it's in a classroom full of eager students or in private sessions, finding and using your inner voice is essential—not only to communicate effectively but also to demonstrate confidence in the method you're teaching.
Finding Your Inner Voice in Pilates Teaching
1. Know Your Message
Understanding what you want to say is the first step in finding your voice. Take a moment before each class to reflect on the key points or the focus of your session. Maybe it's helping your clients engage their core more effectively, or perhaps you're guiding them through the subtlety of breath. When you are clear on your message, speaking up becomes easier.
2. Practice Small Acts of Assertiveness
You don't have to start by tackling the most difficult situations. In your teaching, practice small acts of assertiveness. If a client isn't executing an exercise as you'd like, take a moment to guide them gently but firmly. Over time, this will build your confidence to speak up in other areas of your life, too.
3. Use Your Body as a Tool
In Pilates, we learn that our bodies can inform our mental state. If you want to feel more confident and assertive, adjust your posture—stand tall, engage your centre, and maintain a calm, steady breath. Your physical presence can help project an inner sense of strength, which will naturally enhance your voice.
4. Acknowledge the Cultural Context
It’s important to recognise that cultural norms often play a role in how we communicate. As Brits, we may be conditioned to avoid confrontation and be overly polite. But when it comes to teaching Pilates, assertiveness isn’t about being aggressive or rude—it’s about providing clarity and direction for the benefit of your clients. Think of it as stepping forward to serve their needs better.
5. Rehearse in Low-Stakes Situations
If you're struggling to find your voice in high-pressure scenarios, start practising in low-stakes environments. Whether it's asking for something specific at a coffee shop or gently correcting a friend’s posture, these small steps can make a significant difference in building your ability to speak with confidence.
6. Embrace the Silence
Sometimes, finding your voice isn't just about speaking more—it's also about knowing when to be silent. In a Pilates session, the silence between instructions can be powerful, allowing your clients to focus inwardly. Similarly, in conversations, knowing when to pause can help you gather your thoughts and speak more effectively.
7. Be Kind to Yourself
Lastly, finding your inner voice is a process, and it’s perfectly normal to feel hesitant at times. Remember to be kind to yourself, especially if speaking up doesn’t come naturally. Like Pilates, self-expression requires practice and patience, and the more you engage with it, the stronger your voice will become.
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